Today parenting is a challenging duty. Both
the parents are preoccupied with job and other responsibilities and not able to
spent sufficient time to look after their young ones. As a result the parent
children relationship has lost its warmth and become more mechanical. Both
parents and children forget their responsibility or not able to fulfil it
properly. Most of the parents are compelled to obey their children, rather kids
obey their parents; like the previous generations.
The new generation parents are ready to
provide most modern facilities including mobile phones to their children
without thinking about the after effect of it. Sometimes they can’t resist
their wards demand for such gadgets. The problem arise far before that, because
they have been provided all the needs of their kids and all on a sudden they
are not in a position to deny the demand of their child or the child ,has not
come across a situation which his/her
demand was denied. Indeed I don’t judge the intention of the parents.
They may have their own justifications. I personally came across the comments
by many parents, that they came across plenty of troubles in their childhood
and their parents were not able to fulfil many of their wishes. So today’s
parents doesn’t want to see their kids in such situation . But unfortunately
they ignore the fact that such situations made them strong and enabled them to
face their challenges and helped them to reach the heights.
However today’s parents don’t want their
kids to face such situations. Despite of poverty they provide all the resources
to their kids to prove that they are right. But the time proved that such decisions
were not prudent. Number of suicides and suicidal attempts by children were not
for any serious reasons. They did it for silly matters such as not allowed them
to watch television, not purchased the article of their choice and so on. They
were not formed, how to face ‘no’ in their life. When they face ‘no’, they may
become upset and even decide to finish off their life.
The last generation was lucky enough to get
lessons to face the life battle – from family and school. They were satisfied
with one or two pairs of dress, the available food and were willing to walk any
distance to pursue their studies and ready to overcome any difficulties of
their life. Please don’t misinterpret my point. I am not criticising the
development or appreciating their difficulties but the attitude of people
matters. Most of today’s parents hesitate to say no to their children and when
they become strong enough, to deny the unnecessary demand of their children,that
will create a strong generation again. I
would suggest some tips for good parenting which may be difficult but practical
and useful.
1.
Let the children know and
experience the original situation – especially the difficulties and lack of resources of the family.
2.
Be a wise parent; be courageous
to say no to the unnecessary demand of the children that will mold a strong
psyche to kids.
3.
It is good to tell the
financial situation of the family to the children so they would be able to
understand it properly.
4.
Don’t encourage any kinds of
unnecessary demands of children.
5.
Give them opportunity to take decisions;
it may enable them to be independent.
6.
Don’t hesitate to punish
children.
7.
Use carrot and stick policy,
which is a policy of offering a combination of rewards and punishment.
8.
Be a good friend and guide to
the kids moreover be a good role model.
To form a good generation we need good parents and good teachers. Henceforth our society should concentrate to form good parents and good teachers because they are the most influential people for a child.
good work
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